tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-53783148993120849542024-02-07T01:52:06.315-08:00NightKnight's BlogThis blog is dedicated to all those out there who are going through a transition themselves or know of someone who is. I hope that my writings and information can provide each of you what you need to make things easier for you.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-69320541193642329302012-07-18T02:36:00.000-07:002012-07-18T04:33:48.258-07:00One Year Transition and HappeningsHello Everyone,<br />
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It has been a little over one year now since I started taking hormones and I feel fantastic! Things have been fun and busy all at the same time. I am just amazed about the changes I have seen since I first started and it can be a bit hard to take in sometimes as well. I did see my doctor, and she stated once again that I was doing great and
further along than what she would expect, but otherwise doing an
awesome job. I am still on 4 mg of estrodial and 150 mg of spiro a day.
Lately, the most changes I have been seeing has been mostly in my face
which is matching perfectly with my hair length. I am about an inch away
from being able to put it all up in a ponytail (with the heat we have
been having, I can't wait). My weight has slowly been declining and it
can definately be seen in my waist ( I have managed to get down to a
size 12 and sometimes a 10). The girls in my transition group have been
jealous of my transformation and at times even my girl friends outside
of group. <br />
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Moving on, we recently had our first Denver Comic con, unfortunately it landed the same weekend as Pride, but it was still great. After figuring out what I wanted to go as, I decided on Scully from the X-Files. I ended up making a badge with a FBI signature and took an old metal badge from one of my old work places for that extra flavor. To top it off, I also got a shoulder holster and air soft gun to go with the ansamble. Now, of course Scully was known for wearing a suit during the show, which brings up the next part. It only took two and a half months, but my uniform finally came in for work! Of course I just wore my uniform from work with the badge and holster and I already have the red hair, it was perfect. Unfortunately, the pictures that were taken at the con did not turn out. :( So, I am just going to post a picture of me in my new uniform at work.<br />
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I have recently been introduced to a sport, that for years I always thought was really cool, but it was always off limits; Roller Derby! That is right, roller derby. One of the girls in my group is already on a team and her girlfriend just joined. I am hoping that I can get better at skating here soon and try out for a team myself. As it stands, there are two leagues in Colorado; the Denver Roller Dolls and the Rocky Mountain Roller Girls. I will be joining the Rocky Mountain Roller Girls. Right now there is a class every Sunday for two hours for learning how to skate and eventually I will have more practice throughout the week when on a team. Now I just need to get the money together for a pair of skates and pads. :P<br />
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To give everyone a clue about some of the things I have been doing, I have been going to dinner parties, Book readings and releases (The Cellar Door for those wondering), Drink and Draw, hanging out at coffee shops, yoga, swimming, shopping, Renaissance Festival and of course Roller Derby. Otherwise work and gaming. I am starting to run out of time for the basic things like sleep, but I guess I will have plenty of time for that later. Here is a couple of pics from the other day.<br />
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Anyways hope everyone has a good day, and until next time!<br />
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Lyndsey<br />
<br />Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-58631715004569914732012-04-14T01:52:00.000-07:002012-04-14T01:52:04.354-07:00Work DiscriminationLast Friday was a pretty bad day for me at work. I planned on getting done with my normal duties and going to see one of my bosses about some issues dealing with my direct supervisor, when I found I was being ambushed by him and his boss instead. We ended up sitting there talking about how I was transitioning and how I was supposed to conform to the dress code for the company. What they told me next devastated me. They proceeded to tell me that until I had the surgery, I would have to be at work as my former self. In doing so, I would have to conform to the standard dress code for a man, which meant that one: I would have to get my hair cut (after I had been told I could let it grow long 5 months previous), because it was unfair that I be allowed to grow my hair long when nobody else could, and two: I would not be able to get a female uniform even though the uniform I have now does not fit correctly anymore. To give an example, I were a size 38 waist men's pants even though I have a 32 inch waist, but my legs will not fit in a 32 inch waist because my thighs are to big; I wonder why? Everything I had been striving to get done while at work; making sure people understood about me transitioning and for my own personal trials and tribulations came to an abrupt halt. I think what made the whole situation worse was the fact that while my bosses were telling me all of this they kept complimenting me on how I look and how well I was doing (but all was for not from what they told me I had too do). Needless to say, I was crying during this meeting. So, according to them, I had until the next Thursday to get my hair cut or else. <br />
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One of my friends who I adore greatly was there for me immediately. We were ready to go and get our hair cut together with some of our other friends to film and take pictures, so that we could post them on Facebook and on Youtube. We wanted to make a statement. Something did not sit right with me about what my bosses had said and how everything was being handled. I ended up going to my support group the next day and while most of them were up in arms immediately (which made me feel good), I still did not feel right about the situation. So, after talking with them for a while I came to the conclusion that I would start off professional about the situation. I, with the help of some friends and my mom, I ended up printing off over 100 pages of information about what it means to transition and what is to be allowed by state and federal law. <br />
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On Monday, I saw one of my bosses again and gave him everything I had printed. I then asked to have a second meeting, except that I would have the vice president of the board of directors from my support group come with me to answer any questions that any one would have. I knew that she would be able to properly answer any questions better than I could. After he had heard everything I had to say, he was very nice and agreed to everything and was reasonably happy for me after finding out that I had the right to ask for all the accommodations I was asking for, namely, to conform to the female standard dress code, not the male. The information I gave was given to corporate immediately in response. What would happen next, I almost cried over. <br />
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Two days later, I received a phone call from the boss I gave the information too. He told me that because of the information provided and some more research from corporate, I was to be given all accommodations immediately, without trouble. This meant, no more cutting of my hair, a new uniform, general use of the female facilities, everything! It was like a huge amount of weight had been lifted from my shoulders, enough that they actually hurt. So, now I am waiting for my uniform to come in, but I don't have to worry any more about work and it makes me happy.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-9948776770138296872012-03-29T15:12:00.000-07:002012-03-29T15:12:58.792-07:00Restrooms and WorkOkay, so it has been a real long time since I updated anything, but there are new measurements and pictures in both the gallery and transition pages.<br />
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So, day before yesterday was an awesome day! I went to group with one of my friends and while there, I was told I am making very good progress on my voice which made me very happy. Mostly because I was not hearing it from just one person, but many. While I was there, one topic we talked about was the use of public restrooms. Now recently, Colorado passed a new law allowing anyone to use whatever restroom that they associate themselves with at the time. Do to the news, I used the women's restroom for the first time! The idea of using a restroom is not all that big, but for a transgendered person it is really big. I no longer have to go to the mens restroom looking as a woman and getting stares saying, "why the hell are they in here".<br />
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The next day was fun also, as I went to a site downtown that I use to work at. Some of my old colleagues were there as well and once again that meant coming out to people. It went just fine though, did not have any issues and everyone was happy for me. After the meeting was a different story. I stopped in at my work just to say hi, and let them know I did go to the meeting. Upon entering the building, my boss was there and his first words were "Don't tell me you wore that to the meeting?", to which I replied "Yes, I did". My boss then proceeded to tell me that it was supposed to be business casual or uniforms. I had to look at myself and then him, to which I replied, "This is business casual". I could not believe he had said those things. I have never had such a jackass of a boss before, and I have had some big ones. Anyways, so I plan on letting someone know about everything sometime next week. All in all, I have had a couple of really good days.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-84312555740854330912012-03-19T03:47:00.000-07:002012-03-19T03:47:41.145-07:00Nothing New...I am sorry I have not been on for a while. It has been a rather busy month. Mostly been dealing with my condo as of late, but it looks like that will be over here real soon. I am supposed to go and clean it out over the next couple of days. Fun, Fun. Other than that, lets see I ended up dropping $170 on clothes with my friend Samantha over at the store the other day, and I must say it was soo, much fun. :) I also just started Yoga classes with her on Thursdays, and it was actually pretty entertaining. It hurt a little bit, but if anything it reminded me of the time I took Tai Chi during college. So, I hoping to do that at least once a week. On another note, I also want to start swimming laps at the local pool with my other friend Amy. Problem is, I need a new swim suit. I was all excited to start up again, when it dawned on me that I only have my old swim trunks from before transitioning. :P Well, I know what I will be getting on my next paycheck. <br />
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Things have really been picking up with my role-playing game that I have been trying to make over the past few years. Some of the people at Drink and Draw have been really excited to get involved in the making of the game, that we are going to be doing a mock session on Tuesday. Just enough to work out some rules and maybe come up with more. If any of you are interested in knowing more about it, just post a comment and I can try and fill in some answers. Right now, we are calling it the Wheel System, but it might change to the Threat System due to the name being to close to others out there. <br />
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Anyways, I plan on posting some updates on my transitioning within the next week or two. Everyone have a wonderful day!Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-16120665093183842242012-02-26T02:22:00.000-08:002012-02-26T02:22:06.848-08:00Look'n GoodI had my doctor's appointment on Tuesday and I thought it was going to be a bad day. It started by me getting the wrong directions and driving seven miles further out of my way than what I was supposed too. Then, to top it all off, by the time I arrived at the office I was going to have to reschedule. Luckily, the person after me canceled and I was able to be seen.<br />
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The appointment itself went great. The doctor was very nice, knew what she was talking about, and was thorough. After the physical she asked if I had ever taken any hormones before starting my transition (in which I had not, for those wondering), because I was further along than what a person normally would be for only eight months. It made me feel very good hearing that; I had been having lots of thoughts about a week before. Mostly just, am I supposed to be where I am, am I behind or ahead? I was really unsure about where I stood and it was depressing.<br />
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Today I ended up going and getting more electrolysis done, for I was finally able to save up some money. I had scheduled for three hours, but ended up only going for two. Mostly, because my chin could not handle anymore (it was just too swollen). The good news is that the person doing the electrolosys nearly cleared my entire chin, so next time I should only have to have a short appointment to get the rest. Of course, that does not include my upper lip, which is to be very painful (the things we go through to look pretty). I will probably need a shot of Novacaine in order to get it done.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-82712090954879208402012-02-17T04:42:00.000-08:002012-02-17T04:42:28.951-08:00A Change of SceneryI have been so busy with things lately that I am just now getting back on here. I have recently just moved back in with my Mom and the moving has been a pain but, as long as I keep taking it slow it will work out best in the long run. Work has not been much help either in the time to do things department. They have me working two back to back 12 hour shifts on the weekends (the money is good but, ugh..) I am having a hard time dealing with the transition there, not with the people but, I find myself kind of afraid to make the switch. I think it has something to do with the fact that I have so many limitations with what I can do now, such as I can't wear earrings (even studs) or paint my nails (my friends tell me I am such a girl; I don't know what they are talking about.) that I have gotten used to it all. This does not seem like a whole bunch but, I am full time outside of work, it is just weird. <br />
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My life at home has taken a turn for the best; my Mom is finally starting to accept me for just who I am. While I think it will still be a while before she can stop calling me by my old name, she has though started to just be helpful in other areas. Usually, just telling me I look good, or giving me pointers on things but, she does not flinch anymore when I ask her about other things, like how do I sound (still working on the voice, whew.. it's hard). <br />
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Outside of home and work has been absolutely amazing and overwhelming at times. I have been going to "drink and draw" at a local cafe downtown once every week, and while I am there I feel like I am in an episode of Cheers with everyone yelling out "Lyndsey" when I walk in the room. The amount of friends I have been making is just astonishing. and the amount of events or get-togethers is non-stop. I have never been this active in my entire life, and I hope it does not stop!<br />
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On a more personal note, I am reaching my eighth month on HRT and the changes are really apparent. I find myself walking just a little bit differently now along with some noticable curves. I am starting to really get a waist and my hips are starting to come in. In fact, I went to target yesterday with a friend and tried on some jeans; they fit perfectly! Emotionally, I have started to really look at guys in a different way than I used too, bordering on attraction. I knew that it was possible that I might begin to change in that area, and there is nothing wrong with it but, it is an odd sensation, given that I have only liked girls up to this point in my life.<br />
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Next week is my next doctor's appointment; it is a new doctor that I was recommended to when at my last appointment. The office that I supposed to see her at is a bit further away than I would like but, they will be better suited to help me with my medication and transition. With the extra money I will be getting each month, I am hoping I can start to really save up for any future surgeries. <br />
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Anyways, I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend; until next time!<br />
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LyndseyLyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-87924301697547035772012-01-21T05:38:00.000-08:002012-01-21T05:38:42.871-08:00Awesome News!So, I talked with my one of my bosses today and the meeting went wonderfully. I've known him for about 4 years now and when I told him today that I was transitioning he just listened and then said thank you for telling him, because he knew how hard it is to come out to people and the fact I told him made him feel good. He also said that "Anything I can do, let me know. I want to help a friend out anyway I can". It really made my day to hear that; it also means that I won't have any trouble with work anymore. Besides the fact that the law and company policies prohibit any from happening, he will just make sure things work out. The best part of talking with him was he said he is still looking for a position to open up for a supervisor position, and he wants me to have it! In the mean time he is going to see about getting me a small raise to start helping me with the bills. <br />
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I cannot address strongly enough how much it means to have people there to help you along. It is hard to tell them sometimes, but find those few people who are open-minded first, let them help you build a wall of confidence around yourself so that when you need to deal with people who might have a problem, they will help. There is always someone out there willing to help.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-82778203806187281562012-01-20T05:21:00.000-08:002012-01-20T05:21:02.165-08:00Well, Here we go.Today I am going to be talking with one of my upper echelon bosses at work. The good news is I have known him for a few years now, since he and I came from another security company together. One of my friends who is going through things similar to my own has talked to him in the past and he had no problems. So, that is the good news; bad news is I have been sick all night last night and am dreading staying up late to talk to him; the bed is calling to me. : P<br />
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It needs to be done though; if I talk to him, I can begin to figure out what I need to do to make the switch over at work. I am reaching close to 8 months now and I think I want to make the final jump to Lyndsey by the time my 1 year mark hits. After that, I can focus on the more expensive parts of transition. Namely: surgery. I have been thinking of getting an Orchiectomy to lower the amount of testosterone blockers I need. While my health is good (other than being sick right now), it will also cut down on some of my risks from medications.<br />
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Anyways, until next time,<br />
Thanks to everyone who has been reading.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-13672702952508476362012-01-06T01:28:00.000-08:002012-01-06T01:33:38.632-08:00So, the Holidays are Finally OverI am sorry I have not been posting very much recently, but tis the season to get nothing done. Thank you for finally being over. All and all, the past couple of weeks have been good; just steady progression. I did however have to stop going to my meetings over at the GIC for the time being, as I was coming home from a friends house and someone forced me on to the median screwing up my front driver's wheel. So, until that is fixed, I am stranded, mostly. I have been lucky enough to get to work and some friends places via Light rail and bus, but it is expensive! I have though been going to a cafe in downtown Denver with some friends for a thing they are calling "Drink and Draw". Just a place to hang out and have a coffee or hot chocolate while drawing. There have been so many people and I have been learning so much.<br />
I should have a new set of measurements and pics up within the week, plus I am finally putting up some links to other sites. Yay!<br />
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I hope things are going well for everyone!Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-19424402422146133022011-12-19T22:37:00.000-08:002011-12-19T22:37:59.283-08:00Well, That is AnnoyingToday has been a day that I could just forget about completely. It started this morning at work when my boss decided to tell me that someone at my work was feeling uncomfortable with my transitioning. Now, the thing about that is, I told everyone individually, and away from prying eyes. Not one person said anything about having a problem and that it was my decision. So, after two months at work since telling everyone, what has changed? What has caused this to be an issue? Either way, my boss was not at his best with dealing with the situation. He proceeded to tell me that he would have done things differently on telling people, but he wanted to "allow" me to do it my own way and since I did then there is not much he can do. So, I am to grab the keys and change clothes in the break room as soon as I get to work from now on, no listening to pass-on's, no talking, nothing.<br />
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Later in the evening, I got up from getting plenty of sleep, but still feeling puny from getting no sleep the day before. I just seemed to let every little thing get me upset or aggravate me in some way. This might just be a side effect of the hormones, but it was still annoying. I hoping my day goes ten times better tomorrow. I a supposed to take my girlfriend to the botanical gardens. they are supposed to have everything lit up for the holidays. It snowed today, but with it warmer tomorrow the snow should melt. Wish me luck!Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-52464317342763454002011-12-05T23:25:00.000-08:002011-12-05T23:25:59.030-08:00A Quiet, Fun DayToday was very relaxing, went out and played card games with some of my friends. It had been a couple of months since I was last able to do that with them. I also figured it would be a good time to let them know about my changes. They took it well, and after answering a few questions, it was like nothing changed (just the way I want it), we just continued with what we always do, laughing, joking, having a good time. At the same time, I was having a good conversation with a friend in both Nebraska and in Ohio (both of which know of my situation and are awesome about the whole thing. I love all my friends, because they understand what I am going through and care for me and vise versa. I consider myself extremely lucky.<br />
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Ever since I told my Mom, I feel as if I don't have to hide anymore. I feel free to be who I am without prejudice, and I think it is showing more and more every day. I am going out more as who I am inside, and that makes me happy. I think everyone I know, has said this to me, "Is it going to make me happy?" and all I can say in return is, yes it is and thank you. Thank you for being there everyone!Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-41813033147104242042011-12-03T23:19:00.000-08:002011-12-03T23:19:05.871-08:00I'm Official!I have been really good at trying to take care of things during my transition; making sure I have all the information needed and the resources to do it. There is one issue that I was not being very smart on though, and that was me self medicating. I cannot stress enough that it is not a very good idea to do so, and can lead to many problems down the road. With that said, the good news! I found a doctor and had my first appointment on Friday. The people were great, offered to find me another doctor who could help me even better, but if the new doc is not under my insurance, they are willing to still help me. They ended up taking three vials of blood for various tests (I have not been to a doctor in over ten years, so this was a good time). I should find out the results on Tuesday. They even provided me with two new prescriptions for Oestradiol and Spironolactone, which saves me about $45.00 a month.<br />
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On another note, My Mom and I have not talked about my transitioning since that time a few days ago, but on the bright side, we are still talking like normal, still enjoying each others company. I know that she is still in denial right now, and I am just giving her some space and time to think about it, and I think she will come to me once she is ready. Since I have told her though, I have not been holding back. One: because, I don't have to hide anymore, and two: I just feel its time to move to the next stage. I am not going full time yet, until I can pass a bit better, but I am getting more comfortable going out more. My girlfriend and I went shopping the other day and picked up a new coat and some blouses.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-80632876293233794462011-12-01T01:31:00.001-08:002011-12-01T02:10:40.105-08:00A Rough Three DaysSo, I finally got up enough nerve to talk to my Mom. I did have a friend with me for support, but still, one of the hardest things I have had to deal with my entire life. Nothing can prepare you for coming out to a family member, believe me I tried. I thought that if I had information for my Mom to look at (books, Blogs, other websites...) plus having a friend there to help with general feelings that it would somehow make it easier, it really doesn't help. Don't get me wrong though; having that stuff helps in the long run for general questions and understanding what it means to transition, but the initial "Mom, I am becoming a woman." there is just nothing you can do.<br />
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I was so afraid, it took me probably twenty minutes just to come out and say it, and it made it even harder because my Mom was getting sick just trying to wait for me from nerves. I was so scared that I would hurt her, and right after I told her, I broke down so hard. I love my Mom with all my heart, we have been together through thick and thin throughout the years. She showered me with that love again, she immediately, came over and gave me a hug; told me everything will be okay. I was so relieved. trembleing and crying; all I could do was hold her.<br />
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As the night went on, my friend and I tryed our best to explain things, so she could understand (this is where being prepared comes in handy). I think we got most of it across, but my friend and I ended up having to leave to go to work. That did not stop me though; I ended up calling her back three times before the end of the night. I was so happy just knowing that no matter what she loved me, period.<br />
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The next day, I decided I would crash at my Mom's place for two reasons. One: I just wanted too, because I did not need to hide anymore and was comfortable just being there. Second: I knew more questions would come up. Well, I was right; more questions did come up. They went well, but one thing I knew was going to happen, but you don't know when, or exactly how to deal with it, denial.<br />
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My Mom still showed and stated multiple times that she still cared and loved me with all her heart, but she also began to go into denial. Stating, that there must be something wrong for me to want to do this, or that I was being pushed into doing this. I am so tired of trying to explain myself, and I think that is what really wears you down after a while. The only thing wrong with me is that I am a woman, but I was born with the wrong parts. Nobody put me up to this; this is just who I am and all I want is for you to be happy for me that I finally found myself! I am still the same person inside!<br />
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The next day was rather uneventful, I ran a bunch of errands and eventually made my way to gaming. I called my Mom in-between road trips, but nothing was said about my situation. I think she wanted to, but either did not know how to ask or was afraid herself that it would lead to an argument. I do hope that she learns to accept me for who I am becoming on the outside, because again, I am still the same on the inside. I love her so much, and I hate to have things be bad between us.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-70512992350307613722011-11-24T04:24:00.000-08:002011-11-24T04:25:10.886-08:00That Time We Can Never Be Completely Prepared ForWell, I just got done making a cherry cobbler for Thanksgiving later today, for a few friends, my girlfriend and myself are all getting together for a nice dinner. I hope everything goes well; it seems that Thanksgiving is just not what it seems anymore. My Grandmother (a wonderful lady, I wish I could have known more) passed away on Thanksgiving back years ago when I was still young, and my Uncle who used to spend every Thanksgiving with us also passed away a few years back (I miss him a lot). Now both my parents are divorced and my dad moved away never to be heard from again, presumably. That leaves just me and my mom.<br />
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It is so hard right now, thinking about all the things that have happened in my life, and how I wish things were different. I plan on coming out to my Mom probably this Sunday. Luckily, I have a friend who is willing to come with me for emotional support. I just have no idea what my Mom is going to say. I stated in an earlier post that we have always been so close, and I know she loves me, but we have also been through so much that, I am so afraid of loosing her. I only hope that things will go well, and she accepts who I am.<br />
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I have spent some time trying to put together a bunch of information together for her about transitioning, even a book for her to read. I also know that she will have so many questions about why I want to transition. I need to remember that it is not that I "want" to transition, it is that I "need" to transition to make myself closer to who I am inside. Otherwise I will always feel out of place or different. I have also been thinking about all the different things that have led to me understand my problem and led me to want to transition. I am surprised I did not think of transitioning earlier; I did so much curious web surfing on the subject over the years, that I should have seen it, but I guess sometimes you just need that one person or thing to point it out to you.<br />
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I know this is Thanksgiving and I should try and enjoy myself today, and I will try, but I have never felt so nervous and scared about talking with my Mom. It is not like when you are younger and your afraid you will get caught with something you did, it is ten times worse. I know that it is better I tell her now before she finds out the hard way when she really starts seeing things, especially since I am getting farther and farther along with my hormones, but it still does not get rid of the fear. All I can say is, build a wall around yourself with friends you know that are supportive of your situation; let them help to take some of the pressure away. That way if things do go sour, you will always have someone you can go too. Pray, that it won't matter and your family will love you and be there for you. Again, the fear will always be there, but we must do things that frighten us, otherwise all we will do is cower and never move ahead in life or in becoming the person you know you are and becoming.<br />
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I hope this is helpful to others out there, good luck on your journey, and Happy Thanksgiving!Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-19767495686224325342011-11-21T23:09:00.000-08:002011-11-21T23:09:04.055-08:00Happy Just to KnowOver the past week I have come out to a multitude of my friends and each one has been there for support and comfort. It truly is amazing just how much easier it is to transition when you have people you care about to be there when you need it. One thing that is making me the most happy right now is knowing how many actual friends I do have. I just want to say thank you to all of those friends who have been there with me throughout the years, and are still here now.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-67032623228425510032011-11-15T23:49:00.000-08:002011-11-16T05:23:26.485-08:00What Friends Can Do for YouI decided to visit one of my friends yesterday that I have known for about 19 years. One of the things you can tell if someone is your friend or not is by their actions, and today when I talked to mine, he immediately knew something was up when I called him on the phone. Normally, we have a gaming night with some of our other friends as well, but we cancelled due to one of them being out of town. That did not stop us from hanging out for the night anyways. When I arrived we went to Toxic Hell (Taco Bell) to talk. I swear it took me about 30 minutes before I gathered up the nerve to tell him, but eventually I told him that I was transitioning. He took it very well with no problems and was very understanding of my situation. We finished eating and made our way back and I told his wife as well. Both of them, willing to listen and provide support, it was fantastic. I am so happy and lucky to have friends such as these.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-44363291006047435462011-11-10T00:10:00.000-08:002011-11-10T00:11:33.206-08:00Productivity Update!I had my second electrolysis appointment yesterday, so my chin, neck and part of my cheek are swollen. I just hope it goes down more before I go to work again tomorrow. I am still happy I am getting it done though; the idea of never having to shave my face again is such a relief. Now, I know that I will just end up having to shave other areas, like my legs is still a normal routine, but no longer the face is a huge plus.<br />
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On a different note I went to the support group again also yesterday. I got to meet some new people, and even got along with some, that we went to the late night cafe afterwards. I think we talked for at least another couple of hours. I got some more tips about my hormone regimen, since I am still self medicating (I plan on getting a doctor as soon as my insurance gets in later this month). One thing that came up in our talks really hit the "I'm interested" button, was that two of the girls are in a roller derby nearby. I think that once I get a bit further along, I might just see about joining, it sounds like a lot of fun. Other than it being a productive day, it was actually rather mellow. Well, until my next update, have a good night!Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-41239449418338590392011-11-02T05:32:00.000-07:002011-11-06T02:52:47.979-08:00True Friends are Always Where You Need ThemToday was a very difficult, but stress relieving day. I decided to visit a good friend of many years, after we both had some free time to hang out. We talked for at least a few hours while watching a movie, and I decided it was time to come out and tell him that I was going through some changes in my life that were very important to me, but others might find difficult to understand. I told him that I was transgendered and was becoming a woman completely, instead of just in mind. He took the news really well, other than the fact he thought I was joking at first. I explained to him that I had been having the feelings of wanting to be a woman for years, even before I knew him, but it was not until recently that I realized that that is what I wanted and was missing. I asked him straight out if it would affect our friendship, and he stated, " No, we are friends and we have always helped each other out through tough times. You will always be my friend." I lost it right there; I could not help myself but to cry out of happiness and the release of tension and stress. We ended up talking for more hours after that, laughing and joking as we have always done in the past. He told me something later that made me feel special inside. He told me that when I am ready, and want to tell my Mom, that he would come along and provide support; I lost it again. I had a truly amazing night, just hanging out with a good friend.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-580378483802108442011-10-31T03:36:00.000-07:002011-11-01T03:51:02.081-07:00Month 5October 31, Day of the dead, Halloween; just a fun spooky time for everyone! It also is the beginning of my 5th month on hormones. Woot! I will get around to posting a lot of my pictures here soon. I have just been so busy at work with all the overtime we have been having, oh well, it will look good on the paycheck for Christmas. There have been some definite changes in how I look; my waist has begun to shrink, giving me the start of a hourglass figure, and butt has begun to really round out as well. According to my girlfriend, my face has changed somewhat, but I really don't see it yet. I think probably, my biggest wait right now is the chance to work on my voice.I should have a chance here very soon.<br />
I have been trying to write down notes of my transition and different blogs from other sites; I felt it was time to make this blog and put everything I have done in one place. So, bear with me, and I will get things running as soon as I can. Anyways, I hope all of you ghosts, goblins, vampires, and werewolves....out there have a wonderful Halloween.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-11800799117970783362011-10-22T04:43:00.000-07:002011-10-31T03:07:41.268-07:00Another Step in the Right DirectionThe last two weeks were very good to me. I had attended my first GIC (Gender Identity Center) meeting and got meet new girls who I can relate with and after talking with one; found out that she does Electrolysis. I immediately set up an appointment for the next week. The appointment went great, and she her prices were non-taxing. We even sat their talking up a storm about different music groups, TV shows, and anime. I have not had that much fun as my female self since I started HRT. It was a wonderful feeling, and I can't wait till I can do it again.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-27144560741738582252011-10-12T02:12:00.000-07:002011-10-31T03:04:46.210-07:00Feeling a Bit of Anxiety<div class="postbody"> <div class="xg_user_generated"> Well, I have had a decent day today; got plenty of sleep, no stress, saw some friends; a regular nice day. The only problem was, I stopped at my Mom's place today to say hi. Right now I have not come out to her yet, and I am not quite ready for that step. But, when I said hi, we hugged like normal, but I forgot I was wearing my training bra. She did not say anything, but I know she felt it, and she began saying things that just weirded me out some without actually saying anything bad.<br />
First she made the comment about my earrings ( she has known I have had those for a while now) and how I changed to small hoops instead of studs. Second she made the comment about my shirt ( a wolf t-shirt she got me from Florida) and if it was fitting me okay. The third thing was, as I was leaving she made the comment that my hair looks real nice and that I look healthy and began to really pour on the affection.<br />
I am not sure what to think of this right now, as tomorrow she has a phone interview for a job in Florida, and if she gets it, she will be leaving. So, I don't know if how she was acting was because she might be leaving state for a new job in which we will be thousands of miles apart, or if it was she is starting to suspect what is going on with my transitioning, or if it is even some of both. Just a little background, My Mom and I have always been really close, even after my Dad and her got divorced. In fact, we only live about 3 blocks away from each other at the moment.<br />
On another note, I am going to a meeting tomorrow at the Gender Identity Center of Colorado, and this will be my first visit. I know they will treat me right, but it is another step in the right direction for me; just away from my safe zone (or home). This is also getting to me as I am a bit nervous on that. I will get the information I need for continuing my journey, but on a more grander scale.<br />
</div></div>Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-59339427146495985532011-09-28T05:43:00.000-07:002011-10-31T03:05:42.718-07:00What About Work?<div class="postbody"><div class="xg_user_generated">I have been on hormones now for about 3 1/2 months ( with a month break in between), and I have only told a few people about transgendered status. Out of the ones that do know, they have been supportive and helpful in any way they can. It is a wonderful feeling when the one's that are close wish to stay that way even though you might be changing some outside. It is a great way for you to determine who is really your friend and who is not.<br />
I decided to tell one person at my work of what was going on with me, believing that I could trust them. Unfortunately, I found out last week I could not, as I found that they decided to go and tell other officers (I work security) even though I asked for it to stay between us. On the bright side, the person she decided to tell is going through the same thing I am, but in the opposite direction. The person who found out has been great in helping me with anxiety issues about work and my transitioning. I also found out that she had already told work of her transitioning and everything was okay. There was no loss of job, no harassment, just an acceptance.<br />
So, today was my day off, but I found myself going in anyways to cover a partial shift for someone who could not come in to work. When I got there, my boss came to me and asked the question that everyone cringes when they hear it, "If there is something you would like to talk to me about, I am hear." When I heard that I just about panicked and ran, but instead I let the adrenaline just flow and I kept my cool. Turns out that the original person I told decided to tell more people, and when they were talking about it, my boss overheard. I quickly talked to the other officer who is transitioning, and she reminded me that everything would be okay. After a short talk with my boss there after, I was so relieved. He did not have a problem with anything; he just said, "As long as my people do their jobs, I have their backs, and I will help any way I can."<br />
All in all, I had to do things that I was not ready for, but it turned out really well in the end. I overcame a huge obstacle in my transition, and I am not looking back. Oh, and an additional plus note, I always had to cut my hair short for work; no longer; I have been given approval to let it grow long again as long as I keep it up and above my collar while at work. : )</div></div>Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5378314899312084954.post-25437596386297779692011-06-01T19:02:00.000-07:002011-11-06T03:15:12.200-08:00BeginningThis is my first entry for my soon to be gradual change into womanhood. For years growing up, I always knew there was something different about me, but I never knew what it was. I never felt out of place, or alone, for I had many good friends. It did however feel fake at times, like I was living a fantasy. Be as it may I tried to be the best I could be to everyone around me, ignoring my own needs at times. My time in high school showed me what you could accomplish if you stuck with what you believe in and now I am going to follow that path.<br />
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It has not been until the past few months that things have really begun to change. I have the best girlfriend anyone could ask for; she is smart, sexy, and the most caring and understanding person I have ever met. She is the one who taught me to start thinking of my own feelings and not just those around me. It was during these past few months that she also helped me to understand fully what some of these feelings I was having meant, which in turn started to put together answers to why I felt different or odd growing up. I will be gradually writing about all of my physical, mental, and emotional changes once I start on hormone theropy or HRT.Lyndsey Irenehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122131359940058016noreply@blogger.com1