So, I finally got up enough nerve to talk to my Mom. I did have a friend with me for support, but still, one of the hardest things I have had to deal with my entire life. Nothing can prepare you for coming out to a family member, believe me I tried. I thought that if I had information for my Mom to look at (books, Blogs, other websites...) plus having a friend there to help with general feelings that it would somehow make it easier, it really doesn't help. Don't get me wrong though; having that stuff helps in the long run for general questions and understanding what it means to transition, but the initial "Mom, I am becoming a woman." there is just nothing you can do.
I was so afraid, it took me probably twenty minutes just to come out and say it, and it made it even harder because my Mom was getting sick just trying to wait for me from nerves. I was so scared that I would hurt her, and right after I told her, I broke down so hard. I love my Mom with all my heart, we have been together through thick and thin throughout the years. She showered me with that love again, she immediately, came over and gave me a hug; told me everything will be okay. I was so relieved. trembleing and crying; all I could do was hold her.
As the night went on, my friend and I tryed our best to explain things, so she could understand (this is where being prepared comes in handy). I think we got most of it across, but my friend and I ended up having to leave to go to work. That did not stop me though; I ended up calling her back three times before the end of the night. I was so happy just knowing that no matter what she loved me, period.
The next day, I decided I would crash at my Mom's place for two reasons. One: I just wanted too, because I did not need to hide anymore and was comfortable just being there. Second: I knew more questions would come up. Well, I was right; more questions did come up. They went well, but one thing I knew was going to happen, but you don't know when, or exactly how to deal with it, denial.
My Mom still showed and stated multiple times that she still cared and loved me with all her heart, but she also began to go into denial. Stating, that there must be something wrong for me to want to do this, or that I was being pushed into doing this. I am so tired of trying to explain myself, and I think that is what really wears you down after a while. The only thing wrong with me is that I am a woman, but I was born with the wrong parts. Nobody put me up to this; this is just who I am and all I want is for you to be happy for me that I finally found myself! I am still the same person inside!
The next day was rather uneventful, I ran a bunch of errands and eventually made my way to gaming. I called my Mom in-between road trips, but nothing was said about my situation. I think she wanted to, but either did not know how to ask or was afraid herself that it would lead to an argument. I do hope that she learns to accept me for who I am becoming on the outside, because again, I am still the same on the inside. I love her so much, and I hate to have things be bad between us.
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